1. give (someone) the authority or power to do something.
I have such a love/hate with the word “empower”. It’s a strong word; a powerful word. We all want to be enlightened, in control, confident.
I often hear people say they want to “empower” others - especially when it comes to birth. However, OBs, midwives, doulas, and childbirth educators do not empower women, because women are already innately powerful. We have the power within us to birth our babies. We don’t need anyone to give us authority to do what is inherently and fundamentally a part of who we are.
What we need is to be informed, supported, and trusted. Through pregnancy and while giving birth, we should be surrounded by people who believe in our ability to bring our baby earthside and are there to help guide us through that evolution. Care providers, doulas and childbirth educators are important, and they play a critical role. They are our partners in birth.
Because you, and only you, have the power to birth your baby. Think about that for a second. A midwife or doula can be replaced. But not you. No one in this universe, but you, holds that authority. (Unless you use the assistance of a gestational carrier, and rock on! There is no greater partner <3)
I believe that as birth workers, we want women to feel empowered; not necessarily to empower them. We want women to have the knowledge, tools, and support necessary to be confident in their ability to give birth the way they desire.
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