There are some women who have this innate calling to be a mother. They are drawn to any and all babies like a moth to a flame. They have a strong desire to hold and coo and cuddle every baby they meet.
Can I be real for a second? Because ladies, this was not me. Not even a little bit.
Ask my best friends – they would giggle at how awkward I was at holding babies! I was mostly scared to death that I would drop them or that they would start crying. (You’ll be glad to know that I’ve never once dropped a baby.)
Because I felt this fear, and because I didn’t feel this strong maternal desire to ‘seek out all the babies’, I seriously questioned if I would be a good mom. I smile looking back at this now.
I became pregnant and everything changed. I dove in wholeheartedly, embracing my pregnancy and planning for my birth experience. My baby was placed into my arms and it felt so right. I was absolutely meant to be a mom.
Women who’ve been through this whole “mom thing” before reassure us with this message: “Your instincts will kick in and you’ll just know what to do.” And they are SO UNBELIEVABLY RIGHT. I went from someone who feared holding babies to someone, within a matter of seconds, feeling supremely confident in my ability to rock this whole “mom thing.”
My postpartum period with my first baby girl was a breeze and I loved every second. I was the happiest I’ve ever been in my life (yes, I was one of the crazies who actually enjoyed it all). I had a lot of questions, and I read a LOT. But I never doubted if I was a good mom….I knew I was. I’m not perfect, to be sure, and I've made a LOT of mistakes. But I’m a good mom.
Women who were like me - please don’t fear motherhood. It’s hard. And there’s worry. And there’s doubt. But there’s a whole heap of joy.
You can do this. You are (or will be!) a good mom, too.